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NurtureShock New Thinking About Children Po Bronson Ashley Merryman 9780446504126 Books

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NurtureShock New Thinking About Children Po Bronson Ashley Merryman 9780446504126 Books

I read this when my son was 3 (he's 12 now, in 6th grade), and as soon as I was done reading it told my husband, "don't EVER praise him for being smart ... only for effort!" So ever since, we've been telling him "I can see you tried really hard at that!" The results have been incredible. He's self-motivated, a hard worker, and straight-A student (we never put pressure on him, only care about the effort he puts in). I recommend buying this book for yourself or any new parents in your life.


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NurtureShock New Thinking About Children Po Bronson Ashley Merryman 9780446504126 Books Reviews

It was entertaining and I learned some things, but it was light and not as much information as I expected. I am a counselor and I work primarily with kids and their parents. I found the book interesting, but not really helpful for my practice. It is accessible for most people, though, and not just for professionals. I would recommend it to some of my parents.
Honestly, I haven't finished this book yet (about 1/2 way through) but it's so great. I originally checked it out from the library, thinking it would be a good one-time read. I quickly realized though that I needed my own copy of this book to mark up and reference in the future, so I purchased.

The best thing I can say about this book is that while it corrects your (mistaken) assumptions, it does so kindly and without putting the reader down. I don't know how they do it, because while I can explain some of the concepts very easily with the same facts and data, when I do it, it comes across as "you've been doing this wrong," while in the book it never does.

I also love their real-world advice and applications. Both authors are, I believe, parents, and they frequently reference towards the end of each chapter how they took their learnings and applied it to their own children. I found these to be the most helpful parts of the books (and the ones that I will mark for future reference.) For example, when talking about education, they highlight a program and talk about its principles. After hearing about the great results, I look up if there are any schools in my area offering this program, but there unfortunately aren't. However, the authors talk about they personally implemented the ideas from the program with their own children (for example, having the child review his own work and grading himself), which I found to be incredibly useful. While one could read the book and figure out how to apply the learnings in real life, I like that the authors (who are presumably more knowledgeable than me), have already done that for me.
The main thesis of this book is that scientific/psychological studies done with children have failed disastrously in one single area, namely that children are not adults but have been studied as such from the get go. The authors suggest something drastic--maybe you can't believe any of the common beliefs we've come to hold about children, especially ones gleaned through scientific research.

From whether spanking really does cause aggression in children (turns out only if the parents treat it as a punishment they are uncomfortable with rather than matter of fact) to the largely accepted belief that kids are fat today because they watch too much TV (not true...leisure activity is simply replaced with another leisure activity; turn off the TV and your kid will just go find something else sedentary to do) to why it's important to get your kid to bed early even if it means you miss time with them (unlike adults their brains grow while they sleep), this book will throw everything you thought you knew about kids on its ear.

I consider this book a must read for any parent. Each chapter covers a specific subject (such as why white parents don't talk to their kids about race), the underlying assumptions that cause the belief, what scientific studies got us thinking that way and why that science is wrong and why we need to change our beliefs. I found this book so convincing, I immediately began clearing my head of all the old ignorance and approaching my parenting with the new science in mind.

If Temple Grandin is a must read if you have animals or have an autistic child or family member (and I think she is) then this book is a must read if you have or are planning to have children. The writing was entertaining, even humorous, and the science was easy to follow. Five stars, no doubt.
I read this when my son was 3 (he's 12 now, in 6th grade), and as soon as I was done reading it told my husband, "don't EVER praise him for being smart ... only for effort!" So ever since, we've been telling him "I can see you tried really hard at that!" The results have been incredible. He's self-motivated, a hard worker, and straight-A student (we never put pressure on him, only care about the effort he puts in). I recommend buying this book for yourself or any new parents in your life.